4 Career Advice from Taylor Swift. And Her Ex-Boyfriends.
Anyone has been following the news on Taylor Swift lately? She has been under constant spotlight since her "unlikely" split with Calvin Harris, then for the oh-so-soon romance with Tom Hiddleston (the couple went public in two weeks after Taylor's split with Harris), and finally for her legal feud with Kanye West regarding a few Swift-related allegedly-offensive lyrics on Kanye's new song, Famous. Wonder how I know so much? Well, people of LinkedIn: gossiping the latest celebrity issues is among one of my guilty pleasures.
Taylor Swift is one of the most successful singer in the US history. 11 American Music Awards, 7 Grammy Awards, and 6 Country Music Association Awards speaks for itself. Her 2016 net worth is estimated by Forbes at USD250mio, which place her on top 60 rank of Forbes' "richest self-made woman" list alongside Oprah Winfrey and Tory Burch. Talk about woman on top.
Taylor is also famous for one other eccentricities: Her string of boyfriends. In the span of eight years, since 2008, Taylor is publicly known to have had steady romantic relationship with 8 different partners. Wonder who they are? Worry not... There's actually a Wiki page listing down all 8 of them.
Now... Desperately trying to steer this article away from being a gossip tabloid filler, :) allow me to ask: What can Taylor Swift and her past boyfriends teach us about career, values, and life choices? Below are four of my observations.
1. Integrity. Taylor went public on an interview with Ellen De Generes on how upset she was when one of her ex broke up with her with a phone call. Eight years later, It seems like Taylor has forgotten that feeling when she bid farewell to Harris the same way. Talk is cheap. Heck, writing this article on values and life lessons ischeap! Remember, in the long haul, we are evaluated by our actions and how much we bring to the table - not by the words we speak eloquently in the board meeting earlier in the quarter.
2. Play your part. And take credit for it. It was rumored that Taylor's most recent split was partly due to "Swift becoming angry when Harris told an interviewer he had never discussed collaborating with his then-girlfriend." She would later claim, post break-up, that she co-wrote Harris' latest summer hit song, "This is What You Came For".
In Asian culture, taking credit for one's achievement may be dislikable - as the famous Japanese proverb said, "the nail that sticks up will be hammered down". Would you agree? What about having a balanced approach, a tap on your own shoulder once in a while after we've done a good job? I say it pays to value ourselves proportionately.
3. Never settle. Taylor's relationship pattern might upsets some of us who are trying to keep a steady relationship - the "family-man" among us who believe that any good relationship is worth fighting for. But what about if the relationship (romantic, professional, anything) is not worth fighting for anymore? What if you know that you deserve better than how your current employer is treating you? What if in your current circumstances, you can afford to look around for a new job? Should you? I believe it pays to sensibly re-evaluate our standards and expectations, and to do it regularly. Sometimes, the "magic" you need would only happen outside your comfort zone. Sometimes the magic is actually in putting more effort. Only you know the difference.
4. When life give you lemon... Make lemonades. Cliche as it may, it pays to stay positive, and try to make the best of the circumstances! We all know that most of Taylor's breakup stories gets turned into a hit song by the pop singer. You get the allegory. :)
What else do you think we can learn from Taylor's life? Write it down in the comments below.
One more thing: If Taylor Swift enticed you, and you can afford the time to go back to "researching" on Taylor (please don't do this at work), there's a source that lists down all 22 of her love interests - including the unconfirmed ones. Studying her love interests, can you tell me her type? Find a "red tape" running through her strings of love interests? "Psychologically" assess her? Put your thoughts below, I'd want to know. :)